I still do not get why I’m struggling to live by myself yet its something that I did so comfortably earlier on…. I couldn’t stand some of that ‘ Me time’ interruptions and here I am craving for some yet can’t quite have it. Well, some of us are going through the same and I’ve sort of just come up with a few things that help me enjoy my company better without it feeling so monotonous. Like, have you had enough internet for the day? Netflix? or YouTube channels? Literal boredom!!
So here are some ways that I keep myself entertained and self-engrossed….. I could be a low-key weirdo but wharevs haha…My rule of thumb for all these is that I have to be present wholly. That’s how I find fun in it.
Basic Morning Routine– I have three things that I do every morning back to back. The aim is to just kick-start my morning from sort of the sluggish mood to an okay/performing frequency. I make my bed, take a shower and have breakfast then everything else that I have planned including lazying around at some point follows. I figured with my anxiety, its much better to keep myself in the present which equates to being active. It could range from productive stuff to absolute nonzenz btw haha!
De-CLuttering– I know you read this and probably rolled your eyes because it sounds like too much work. It actually is….. You know how smart people tell us when a task is hard we try to break it down to small and doable parts….. I do that. This week I de-cluttered my ‘ bottom wardrobe essentials’ the pants, skirts and shorts. Haha its a lazy approach but I mean the aim is to feel the tinny bit of productive. Plus also, I used to be a spendthrift with clothes and shoes so I have a whole lot. I think its a good enough effort.
Karaoke and Dance– Well, this is a thing that I just started doing on thurs/fridays especially slightly before the Djs or artists that I love start their insta-thing. Yes, I know, I’m weird but this is the only way for now. Funny thing is that, I’m still balancing between Karaoeke and getting turnt. One minute I’m singing my lungs out to Beyonce the next is shaku shaku’n my soul away.
Zumba– I stumbled on a few zumba downloads on my laptop from years ago…… I don’t want to sound like a zumba expert but its a nice way to jam, exercise and be present. (I doubt if its enough exercise because right after I eat but oh well!)
Play dress up– This is definitely for the ladies. I don’t really plan for it. Its a thing that occasionally hits girls when they’re idle or when they’re excited about an upcoming date. It is sort of fun and a good way to remind yourself that you still got it. But sis, when you see the mess after, you swear to never do it again and then you do. Its a cycle! Best believe, I have picked out like four outfits for my next girls night out even when I know my priority will have changed by then. Lol. I call it hope.
Mini-shoot– Well, if you are sort of obsessed a little about yourself or need to reconnect with your fun side on the camera this is it. Plus, unashtua TL kidogo once in a while watu wajue bado there is a ‘Muhiki’…. I often pair this with my dress up game so that I can just clean up after that mess one time. Ain’ nobody got time to do it twice sis! Btw, if you think this is nonzenz, it helped me sana when I had esteem issues with my weight. P.s. I do it all on my phone so don’t break your bank! oh! Also, don’t forget to create a feel good playlist for this!
Rearranging your space- It sounds like its too much but the aim is just to make that monotonous space feel new. It will give you something to look forward to. Like walking into the bedroom and realizing, I didn’t know that the dresser would look as good on the left… oh and the mirror is better positioned now… and the table cloth has a new spot now hahaha such….lol you know what? I’m trying to figure out if I can play around with the ceiling as well 🙂 because we have time!
DIYs– On a serious note though, I do this along with my previous point. Pinterest your soul away to fun DIYs. It could range from giving your mwiko an african touch to making abstract art. Just anything that excites your soul. Also binge on homely hacks. It’s the little things.
Fix it– You see that lampshade that you’ve held on for years? Not wanting to give away because you’re certain you’ll fix it at some point…… perfect time. Good thing about evolution is that you have access to lots of tutorials. Give it a try.
Trying out new recipes– I want to just put it out there….. you enjoy trying out new recipes if you’re wholly present. So pick ones that excite your inner child foodie. Otherwise, utakuwa unaona hiyo packet ya unga ya ugali unaskia kulia. I try to reward myself with one try every week. Ideally, during the weekend so I have something to look forward to. You could do it on a daily if you are not as lazy.
Netflix and chill- I didn’t put it up there because some of us are even running out of stuff to watch….. just don’t let it get you to watch the conspiracy theories too much. Those things sort of feed your anxiety sometimes or not!
Virtual gaming/party/call / anything social– I didn’t quite look up the options available for this but there are pretty interesting apps that will have you enjoy and play catch up with friends.
Aptitude tests- I can’t believe I’ve been idle enough to find aptitude tests fun. But it is a thing. I do it on Wednesdays. I also sort of made dinner interesting on this day as a reward for you know putting in the mental work instead of being a couch potato. Could be any other tests too. Whatever works for you.
Read through that magazine clutter– I collect magazines sometimes. Often, to give my book section some edge when you look at it or create backdrops for a mini-shoot or content creation. Problem is, they end up sitting pretty and I never get to read them. Yes, a whole writer. KPLC decided to ‘anua’ stima the last two days and I admit, I have a beautiful collection of local magazines and newsletter. ‘Nomad’ hotlist of properties of the year topped my list. It made me want to travel and explore. You could also find beautiful pieces to frame on your wall in there!
Be a couch potato- Every once in a while, its allowed. Also, now I think is the perfect time to overdo it without feeling guilty.
Sample new creatives– I feel like this is best if there’s a skill that you are looking to nurture. Say, you are into photography, set a day for that… just a few hours or minutes to just explore. It not only helps you to learn something new but that is you telling the universe, ‘This is the kind of space I want to be in’…. manifestation is a thing.
Talking to myself– I think if you asked my neighbor if I have a roomie, she’d say yes. I talk to myself, a lot. I even crack myself up with little jokes like a mad person. Wait, until you find me asking the spoon, ‘Sasa umeanguka ukido?’ lol, I could use a pet btw. For real though, I have started out a podcast, maybe you could listen to my little musings here. Asante.
What are some of your solo hacks to enjoying your company more? I’d love to hear from you…. Love and Light, always, Nelly.